Thursday, May 2, 2013

Not for votes


Someone recently showed me a clip of a very famous and influential politician shmoozing with school children for over 30 minutes.  We always see the 10 second chit chats and photo ops, but to see such a figure really sit down and hear these little kids ask him question after question, had me in a bit of awe.  This man seemed to really care; he seemed to really value the children, beyond their vote ten years down the line.  

L’havdil elef havdolos we saw this with the Rebbe (and he didn’t need the votes).  That was actually what came to my mind right away.  This politician reminded me what my Rebbe was like - on an obviously much larger scale. 

The Rebbe, as far as I know, was the only gadol (maybe in history – although Mordechai Hatzadik did gather the children on one occasion) that had numerous set times throughout the year where he would come out and spent hours with the children.  It was uniquely for them.  You would see how the Rebbe kvelled in his every moment that he spent with his children.  I’m sure the kids felt like a million bucks. 
This is a true example of an educator par excellence. 

The Rebbe’s time was precious.  But Lag Ba’omer was one of those times where the Rebbe was there with the children. 

Watch these two videos



You see the Rebbe talk to the children for over 50 minutes!  He then watches them parade - he was there. 
How often do I feel that there are much bigger issues to deal with then listening to our little ones, and playing with them?  I mean 5 minutes is enough…

The Rebbe taught me otherwise. 

Friday, June 29, 2012

Is your child special?


Recently an educator (Mr. McCullough – a high school teacher of 27 years) spoke to a group of graduates saying:

“You’re not special. You’re not exceptional…Yes you’ve been pampered, cosseted, dotted upon, helmeted, bubble wrapped…If everyone is special than no one is…”
[1].

 After he said that he was hammered, but also praised in some quarters.

I think Torah has a unique twist on this topic. Yes, “you come from a drop of semen and are destined to return to the dust of the earth
[2]”. But on the other hand, we are holy. We are truly unique and G-dly. We are the chosen people. “The world was created for me (alone)[3]”. That itself is a drive to do more – but even without any accomplishments – we are really special[4].




[1] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T4qfUyfPEj4 
[2] Mishnah Avos 3:1
[3] Mishnah Sanhedrin 36a
[4] This is illustrated by what R’ Simcha Bunim M’Pshischa said to his students: “you should all have two pieces of paper, one should say “the world was created for me” and the other it should say “I come from dust”.

Thursday, May 24, 2012

The grand shtibel

I was recently in Los Angeles for a family simcha.  We went to a number of different Shuls while we were there.  Boruch Hashem there was many to choose from – about two on each block.  One of our stops was at the ‘regular’ Chabad Shul, where most of the Lubavitchers daven.  I say ‘regular’ because although there were other Chabad shuls, they were Chabad Houses – for people that are new to Chassidus or Yiddishkeit – not stam a Shul. 
 

Everything seemed fine, the coffee was great and the Kiddush was very lavish.  I felt very welcome.  As I was enjoying one of the speeches, someone said to me: “you know it’s such a shame that this Shul is like a lcoh in vant (a whole in the wall) – implying that it wasn’t too fancy.  It was a bit too heimish.  I had to agree with him, it was far cry from some of the grander Shulin you often see. 


Yet after a little thought, it occurred to me that this might not be so bad after all.  In the state of California alone there are over 140 Chabad houses!  Our money is being poured into providing a place of worship for Micheal and Mickey.  Our ‘grand’ place of worship in California stretches over the whole state.  I’m sure Hashem is very satisfied with our little shtibel! 

Friday, May 4, 2012

It's not so simple

There have been a number of articles (Op-eds) on various Chabad news websites, complaining about our educational system.  Some demanded a more relaxed schedule, while others suggested lowering the bar.  While I think it’s a great thing to bring up these ideas, to spur talk about these important issues, I would suggest that a slightly different tone be used.

One bochur wrote: “…If we can cultivate these qualities in the bochurim in both mesivta and zal, it should effectively eliminate the issues at hand…”  I will not go into the nitty gritties of his ideas, but I think that his statement that “these ideas” will save the day, at best denotes naivety.  The issues are extremely complex.  If someone comes along and says, “Here is the answer,” he is the last person I would want to listen to.  A wise person once said: “the reason there is no ‘shulchan aruch’ on chinuch is because there are no clear cut rules”. 

Moreover, it’s very easy to judge mechanchim, but do we ever place ourselves in their shoes?   If a principal calls a meeting to discuss a problem with the parents, often the principal is attacked: “How dare you say this about my child!”  Is it possible that this person who has 10-20 years of experience knows better than us? 

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Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Response to Mishpacha Magazine - "Tips on Outreach"

B”H
Needed: Some Torah Entrepreneurial Spirit
Yonoson Rosenblum | Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Success breeds its own challenges. And the phenomenal growth of Torah learning in our times is
no exception. The Torah community has produced, and continues to produce, thousands of fine
talmidei chachamim. Only a limited number of these scholars will find ready opportunities to
give over their Torah knowledge to others, especially if they insist on living in the major centers
of Torah learning — Jerusalem and Bnei Brak in Eretz Yisrael and Lakewood in America.
Some bochurim, even very fine ones, are affected at the beis medrash level, when they look
around and see that there are many others as good or better in learning, and calculate that their
chances of ever finding a shtelle are very slight. For others the problem only starts after years in
kollel, when they begin to dry up inside from lack of opportunity to share their Torah learning
with others and enter the category of those who learn in order to teach.
Many of the latter have the capabilities to make major contributions, and there are communities
that would be eager for what they have to offer. But they lack the initiative to leave the comfort of
one of the great learning centers.

I’ve noticed over the years that one of the most prominent mashpiim in Jerusalem almost always
advises those who consult with him about whether to take a position abroad to do so, unless the
odds are stacked overwhelmingly against success. I’m convinced that he does so not only because
he believes it is every Jew’s responsibility to spread Torah, but also because he thinks his
talmidim will grow from having to take responsibility for the level of Torah in a particular place
and not just being another face in the crowd of lomdei Torah.

On a recent trip abroad, I ran into the son of a well-known Jerusalem rosh yeshivah. Far from
being depressed about living far away from his family, he told me that he was trying to convince
one of his brothers to join him. The reason: “There’s so much to do here.” In Jerusalem he would
have been one of thousands of budding Torah scholars, but in chutz l’Aretz, even in a large Torah
community, he was already, at a relatively young age, a maggid shiur for older teenagers and a
rosh kollel.
…
There are legitimate reasons for hesitation before venturing out of the major Torah centers —
e.g., concerns about the quality of the children’s education, the lack of a large circle of like-
minded families, and the lifestyle amenities of large Torah communities. But many of these
concerns have countervailing advantages. If the schools are weaker, fathers may spend much
more time learning individually with their sons. Children in out-of-town communities are more
likely to look at other Jews, regardless of their current level of observance, as fellow members of
Klal Yisrael, and to learn how to interact with different types of Jews.

Where there are no schools comprised exclusively of children of kollel couples, parents will make
a much greater effort to instill their children with a positive identity as Torah Jews, as opposed to
just relying on them to pick up that identity by osmosis from the school or the neighborhood. One
of my mentors once told me: “I raised half my children in Tel Aviv and half in Bnei Brak. Those
raised in Tel Aviv came out much stronger.” The former were forced to develop a positive
identification, whereas the latter just learned to imitate what they saw around them.

Against the risks entailed in leaving the comfortable environment of a large Torah center must be
weighed the risk of going through life without opportunities to give over Torah, without a feeling
of accomplishment or of being in any way distinguished from thousands of other lomdei Torah.
…

http://www.mishpacha.com/Browse/Article/1698/Needed-Some-Torah-Entrepeneurial-Spirit

My response

I read with great interest Yonoson Rosenblum's piece titled "Some Torah Entrepreneurial Spirit".  Among his many fine points, were a few incentives encouraging talented Bnei Torah, to move out to remote communities outside of Lakewood, Yerushalaim and Bnei Brak. 

One reason he mentions, is the benefit of being able to fully blossom when one is in a community where you're really needed and appreciated.  A second important point that's made, is regarding the family.  When they move to an 'out-of-town community' they spend more time with their children, in order to protect them from some of the outside influences.  In addition, "children in out-of-town communities are more likely to look at other Jews, regardless of their current level of observance, as fellow members of Klal Yisrael, and to learn how to interact with different types of Jews".

I am a Lubavitcher Chossid, and I thought I might add some 'tips' based on the philosophy of Chassidus Chabad.  (To date, there a well over 4500 Shluchim around the world).

The Rebbe ztz"l, has tought us, (there is a collection of his talks on the subject, "Sefer Hashlichus", with close to 700 pages on this topic), that going on Shlichus is clearly not easy.  The main reason we are going, is to save klal Yisroel.  The Jewish Federation estimates that 87% of American Jews are not Orthodox!  In the Rebbe's words, "There is a fire burning, it's an emergency"!

Another fundamental in the Chabad outreach philosophy is a deep love for every Jew.  "We are all part of one spiritual body", (Tanya ch. 32).  Every Jew is a 'only' child of Hashem.  We go out because of the love the Rebbe has shown us to give to every single Jew - no matter what.

Yes, doing Kiruv and Shlichus has many benefits to ourselves and our families, however, I believe the above ideas will add to the equation.

Thursday, April 5, 2012

"Teenagers"


The term teenager was invented in the 1800’s[1]. Before then you went from child to adult. Isn’t that the way we do it, at the age of thirteen, (the first year of the teens) you are a gadol – an adult. 

On Obama-Care, you are covered under your parents insurance till 26! This lengthens the childhood even longer. Our teens need to become adults sooner.

I think the term teenager is often used as an excuse for inexcusable behavior. The Torah is of the opinion, that you are entirely responsible for your own behavior from you Bar or Bas Mitzvah[2]. No excuses.

What do you think?









[1] http://wiki.answers.com/Q/When_was_the_word_'teenager'_invented

In the year 1818 the term teener was coined and it became popularized as teenager in 1941.


[2] Interestingly, there seems to be some exceptions. Maybe we can cut them a little slack. Or sages tell us (Breisis Rabbah 58 and others) that heavenly punishments (vs. punishments of the courts) are only given for sins done after the age of twenty – the year following the end of the ‘teens’. In addition, the year that the Torah enlists for serving in the army is twenty as well.

Monday, April 2, 2012

"Stars"

There is a contest called “Jewish Stars”. It’s a program for Jewish man and boys to showcase their talents get judged by ‘stars’, and the best are then rewarded the title “Jewish Star”.

The famous composer Yossi Green recently said: “In my days the Roshei Yeshivos and Rabonim were the only stars, today others can be stars as well".

My question is, do we paint our Rabonim as stars? If some kid with a good voice and knows how dance, is called a star, our great Rabbis and Roshei Yeshivos should definitely be portrayed as stars - even with their shortcomings.

What do you think?